Loving, Living, Loneliness

Loving, Living, Loneliness

The atmosphere is changing, the leaves are falling, the temperature is dropping and everyone is spending more time inside. As it gets colder and the seasons change I find myself spending more time in my room relaxing under Christmas lights and drinking a warm beverage. This is the time of year that I find most peaceful, but it can also be the start of a lonely season in someone’s life.

I am going to link a playlist here that you can listen to while reading this post or when you are enjoying some alone time, I have found it very relaxing and cozy for me while spending time by myself and I hope you will enjoy it.

I want to focus some attention in this week’s blog post on getting to know the people who mean the most to you and getting to know yourself. In the time where we transition from fall into the chillier months I find people tend to get lonely or seek comfort in another person.

Last week we discussed the importance of close friendships during every season instead of seeking a relationship as your top priority. This week I want to discuss the importance of being comfortable and at peace with just being by yourself.

The beauty in alone time is getting to think and be free to express yourself. Who do you want to be? What do you want to become? What is most important to you? How do you want people to see you as? These are some of the questions I think we all find ourselves asking when we are alone with our thoughts. It is comforting, knowing that our lives are meant for much more than our own happiness, that they are meant to support and impact the lives of others.

Loneliness doesn’t have to define a season of your life. We often look at being lonely as not having a significant other, having troubles with your best friend, or being far from home. These instances are wrong in the fact that they are making these relationships about ourselves, when in reality our relationships are meant to be about someone else and other people. I think loneliness is something we fall into when we lose focus on what relationships are all about, and when we view being with someone as what that person does for us.

The key to not being lonely is to recognize the need for other people so that you can support and be there for them, not focusing on what someone else can do for you. People will always fall short because no one is perfect. Because of this our goal in relationships and avoiding loneliness should not be based on what we can gain and receive from a relationship with a friend, significant other, etc., but on what we can give and invest into another person.

This week’s poem is entitled “Unmasked”.

Place your heart in my hand,

it will not fall or dent.

Breathe life in each of your breaths,

they will not be shaky.

Rest and allow comfort,

to invade your uncertainty.

Trust the things that escape my lips,

believe their candor and love.

See the person shared with you,

a fruitful lie could never grow tall.

Promise a life you will live in full,

those words cannot be forgotten.

Anonymity couldn’t save my soul,

find peace in who I give to you.